Our society has placed such an emphasis on diet culture, being thin, looking just right. Even without realizing it, we have grown up thinking if we just lost 10 pounds, if we just gave up sugar, if we just worked out harder, we would feel better about ourselves.
But what if we said NO THANKS to always trying to make ourselves better, believing that we aren’t awesome the way we are? What if we said YES to the cookie, YES to clothes that fit our body, YES to loving ourselves at whatever size and shape that might be and enjoying our food each and every day?
It is possible to love our relationship with food and with ourselves without counting calories, dieting, restricting, binging, or comparing. It does take time, attention, and focus. Which is why we do this TOGETHER. I’ve worked with many clients one on one to make peace with food, but being able to share our struggles, progress, and success as we go with others who are on the same journey is even more powerful. Together we can hold each other accountable, cheer each other on, and succeed as a team.
So now, you’re thinking, “Yeah, this all sounds great. But HOW?”
1. Start listening inward instead of outward.
Instead of focusing on what our society has been telling us for years is how we should look or act or eat or feel, let’s turn our attention inward and focus on what our own body is telling us it needs. This means we have to be honest with ourselves. We have to meet ourselves where we are at today. Recognize what is and is not working. It may be scary. It may not feel good. But we cannot move forward and make progress without evaluating our starting point. The world tells us we need to look a certain way. And we’ve been told these lies for years. Let’s remove all that baggage and start fresh.
2. Make peace with food.
Food is not the enemy. Food is not good or bad. It’s just food. It is meant to nourish us. Fuel us. Give yourself permission to eat.
3. Learn to enjoy and savor meals.
In this fast food world, let’s stop and slow down. Let’s choose food that tastes good, is made well, and is good for our bodies. Let’s sit down at a table, see the food in front of us, take the time to savor each bite and find satisfaction in our food.
4. Respect and honor your emotions.
We love using food to make us feel better. We all do it. But that is doing a disservice to both our mental and physical health. Let’s find ways to resolve our emotional issues without food, and let food be a positive, savored, and enjoyed part of how we fuel our physical bodies.
5. Respect and honor your body.
Once we figure out how to properly take care of our mental health, we also need to spend some time on our physical well-being. Let’s treat our bodies with dignity and respect. They’re the only ones we have! This means getting comfortable with our own skin, using movement and exercise to feel good, and taking care of what we’ve been given.
6. Make a commitment to yourself.
None of us are perfect. We live in a world that is constantly bombarding us with how to feel, how to look, how to act. But in order to continue to respect and love ourselves, we need to honor our health as a whole. Recognize that we will not always eat a “perfect” diet (and here’s a secret: there is no perfect diet!), we will have ups and downs, we will make choices we are not proud of. But that is not what matters. What matters is what we are going to do after we make that choice. Instead of giving up, spiraling down into old habits, let’s make a commitment to ourselves to press forward, keep going. Progress, not perfection is what counts.
Are you ready to get started?
I am starting a brand new group coaching program designed to help you ditch the dieting mentality for good and find the JOY in food and life lived to the fullest. This program is completed all online, at your own pace. There will be live office hours each week, where you can hop on, and we can chat about your progress, but if you miss those, you can always shoot me an email and we can continue the conversation. We will walk through each of these steps one week at a time, with action items and assignments along the way, designed to guide you forward on your journey to freedom from dieting. There is also built-in accountability and support, as we focus on progress, not perfection, together.
We are only taking 10 participants for our first round of this program, and they will fill fast, so join now to save your spot!